My Uterus Is Mine To "Waste"

To Be a Witch—and Childfree: A Hex on Baby Pressure

The only real upside to having kids? If they turn out exceptional, you get to claim the credit. And if (more likely) they end up average like 99.9% of the planet—meh. At least you tried, huh? What we really end up with, more often than not, is extra: extra mouths sucking up air, making more waste for the sewers, and contributing to a society already bursting at the seams with abandoned responsibilities.

Let’s be clear: there is no divine, sacred, or set-in-stone mandate that requires anyone—especially witches—to bear children. We explicitly do not give a fat flying shit about societal acceptance. To those of us who can afford them, raise them well, and actually enjoy the full-time job of parenting: blessed be. Seriously, go forth and prosper. But personally? I’ve never seen the allure.

No, I don’t hate children. No, I don’t eat them. I just don’t want any.

A Reality Check, Not a Curse

Nine out of ten people I’ve known in my life have nothing but complaints about parenthood. They're stressed, tired, perpetually broke, and emotionally depleted. And yet—they will always sprinkle some version of “but it’s so rewarding being a parent!” into the conversation. It’s like a self-soothing mantra. A spell they repeat daily not to keep their children happy, but to convince themselves they didn’t screw up. To soften the gut-punch of giving up their lives for someone else’s. It’s all just… a little too rehearsed.

It's not like there's an ocean of discarded babies and children that are currently stuck within institutions nationwide! In the United States, single women are not legally prohibited from adopting children—but they are often discouraged or face systemic obstacles. The reasons are rooted in bias, outdated societal norms, and institutional preference for two-parent households.

Here’s a quick breakdown of why single women are discouraged from adopting:

1. ⚖️ Bias Toward the “Traditional Family” Model

• Many private adoption agencies and birth parents prefer married heterosexual couples.

• The assumption is that two parents offer more stability, financial support, and emotional balance than one.

• This ignores the reality that many single mothers (by choice or not) raise stable, successful kids.

💬 "She’s single? But what about the child’s father figure?”
This outdated mindset lingers, despite data showing that emotional security, not marital status, is what matters most.

2. 💵 Financial Gatekeeping

• Single women often have to demonstrate greater financial stability than couples.

• Agencies may require detailed proof of income, savings, housing security, and work-life balance—under the assumption that one income isn’t enough.

Meanwhile, married couples with combined debt and mediocre income may face less scrutiny.

3. 🏛️ Private vs. Public Agency Discrimination

• Foster care and public agencies are more welcoming to single women, with ~25–28% of adoptions going to single parents (mostly women).

• Private adoption agencies, however, can legally set their own preferences—and many do not prioritize or even accept single applicants.

✒️ Birth mothers in private adoptions also choose who gets their baby, and may gravitate toward married couples (sometimes under pressure from agencies or religious advisors).

4. 🌍 Cultural and Religious Influence

• Faith-based agencies, especially those receiving government funding, have historically favored couples who meet “traditional” family values.

• Even with federal protections in place, there are states that allow religious exemptions—meaning agencies can legally reject single women if it conflicts with their beliefs.
  

5. ⏳ Longer Wait Times & Fewer Matches

• Single women are often lower on the match list when competing with couples, especially for infants.

• This can mean longer wait times, more hoops, or being directed toward “less desirable” placements (older children, special needs, sibling groups).
  

6. 💔 Stigmas About Single Motherhood

• Society still clings to the myth that single motherhood = instability, emotional neglect, or selfishness.

• A woman choosing to raise a child alone—by design—is often viewed with suspicion, like she’s compensating for something or "trying to prove a point."

Even though many single mothers by choice are emotionally mature, financially prepared, and deeply intentional about parenting.

7. 📉 Risk Aversion by Agencies

• Adoption professionals often operate under a risk-averse mindset: fewer complications, fewer unknowns.

• Agencies may see single women as “risky” because:

  • If she loses her job, there's no second income.

  • If she becomes ill, there's no partner backup.

  • If she wants to date post-adoption, it may “disrupt” stability.

These “what ifs” are used disproportionately against single applicants.

BUT: 🧙‍♀️ The Witchy Truth?

Single women who adopt are often more prepared, more resourceful, and more intentional than the average couple. They plan, save, and assess every risk—because no one’s going to hand them a baby based on good vibes alone. In fact, studies show that children raised by single mothers can thrive equally—if not more—because of the strong, focused attention and independent values they inherit.

Final Thoughts: Witches Gonna Witch

At the end of the day, to each their own. Parents, childfree folks, witches and warlocks alike—we all walk our own paths. This is just mine. But if you’re a witch who’s felt weird, broken, or “less-than” because you don’t want kids—let that weight go. You are not defective. You are discerning. Wise. In tune. In control. And being childfree? That’s not a flaw. That’s a choice. A spell cast with clarity.

Witchcraft Means Opting Out—On Purpose

To be a witch is to be free from society’s pressures. We are not here to fit the mold. We are not reproductive robots. We question the rules, break the ones that don’t serve us, and choose intention over expectation. That means it’s completely valid to look at childbearing and say: “Hard pass.” Can you imagine going through life living up to the expectations of others?! Pfft! Bringing new life into this world isn’t a sacred obligation—it’s a personal choice. One that shouldn't be made lightly, or under pressure, or because someone’s aunt said you're “not complete without kids.” (Eyeroll.) Honestly, this obsession with reproduction? It’s narcissistic at best. Just a glorified way of trying to make little copies of ourselves to outlast death. Meanwhile, real living, breathing children already here are suffering in orphanages, institutions, and neglected homes. But sure, let's make more.

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